John N N Ng’ang’a Meditation of April 7th, 2025…. Infidelity: may lead to SEXUAL PERVERSION
Day 1
They called to Lot, “Where are the men who came to you tonight? Bring them out to us so that we can have sex with them.”
Sexual perversion was not an unusual,university cu would invite me to speak on when I started getting invites in late 1970s. I could not have been invited to speak about it EVEN in 1980s. It was not a big issue THEN. So that generation had issues we were dealing with but it was not about things like homosexuality. Now generation of 2020s , you have some things that have gone well and others that are quite a problem like this one.
But this topic of perverted sexuality is not an academic subject. It is real area of need. Yeah, it is something you, people in your generation, you are dealing with and it is a very unfortunate thing.
However, I want to start by saying, I do not want you to start regarding people in LGBTQ as doing more sins than heterosexual people. Sin is sin. Sin is not about how you do it. Sin is about doing anything God has not allowed.
So, if the somebody is reading this and they are sexually active yet not married, they are as evil as homosexuals. No one’s sin is better. And since all sins will take people to hell, when they are in hell, it will not matter that for them it was just heterosexual immorality and this other one was homosexuality. They will be in the same hell …same temperature.
So, I want that settled out first. Don’t start looking at people who are homosexuals as more sinful than the ones in campus and involved in heterosexual encounters.
Day 2
“‘No one is to approach any close relative to have sexual relations. I am the Lord.
In fact, some people argue, if we are two consecutive adults.What is your problem. I am in second year; she is a first year. We have agreed. We are both born again. And let’s agree we are going to get married one day. It is only that we are doing a fast forward. Whether you do it with a willing partner or not it is still evil. Of course, one be a crime while the other is not but both are sins.
Now you need to understand that the moment you have sex with somebody before you make a long-term commitment, you are sinner. That needs to be understood. That is how the bible defines sexual sin.
Today’s generation have very interesting things. Because of this homosexual business being seen as being so terrible according to people.It has made where two Christians in the Christian Union have sex and thought they have little sorry is they do not see it as a very big deal.
In fact, today the real definition of a girlfriend is a sexual partner. And they are both in the CU. Some are in the CU leadership and yet argue this is my girlfriend. What does it mean to be a girlfriend? Your real definition of a girlfriend is a sexual partner. But the bible sees it differently.
I know this because not too long ago my wife and I were invited at one of the campuses. And we were staying Friday, Saturday and Sunday because the graduating class wanted to have a lot of time with us. So, we spoke on Friday, Saturday and Sunday. So, we had a lot of time with the CU in that university.
So, we had the time for questions and we emphasized the same thing we are emphasizing about sexual immorality and its dangers and what God says about it.
But toward the end of the weekend during question time, one of the questions that came surprised us. I could tell it was from a girl. She was wondering is it that bad. Because I had said something like; if you are Christian girl and you have a Christian boyfriend, and he asks you for sex,don’t negotiate, drop him like a hot potato.
I gave my reasons. Because he is not a Christian. A Christian could never ask another Christian for sex .Yes a Christian could be tempted but he cannot come to verbalizing, ‘I want to have sex with you’. Why the very idea is sinful so verbalizing means you have already sinned. You are dealing with a backslider not a Christian and the bible does not allow you to marry a non-Christian other words, he is saying openly telling you ..am going to hell, can you join me?
Now you need to understand remember many people are tempted but these ones are going to the next level of openly telling you, am going to hell. For there is no way you are going to have sex with him unless you want to go to hell with him for the scriptures are clear on this.
Day 3
“‘Do not have sexual relations with your father’s wife; that would dishonor your father.
So, we told them that the moment a young man asks you for sex or behaves in a manner as to suggest that he wants sex, you will understand he is a wrong person in company with you. If you continue in the accompany with him, my sister you are still going to get into sexual sin. Resisting is difficult for three reasons;
- You love him.
- You don’t want to lose him
- You are not a stone you are human being and are also being sexually tempted.
Initially you may not feel the need but if he works on you, you will soon want the sex yourself. So, you will be the one welcoming him. All because you allowed yourself to go to where even you yourself want it.
But all this begun by you taking company with wrong person…who is asking for sex.
1 Corinthians 15:33 says, “Do not be misled: “Bad company corrupts good character.””
And if you continue as the girlfriend of a guy like that, the bible calls its bad company. And it doesn’t matter how holy you are my sister, you will soon be involved in sex for those three reasons. Have I explained my reasons? Do they make sense?
That’s why when a boy asks you for sex, you don’t negotiate. That’s the end of that relationship. And let me give the fourth reason for maybe three are not convincing;
When a boy asks you for sex and he is not married to you, he is admitting that he is sexually out of control. He can’t control himself because you might have tempted, but now he is out of control.
If you married that boy, you think the control will come because of the marriage? Remember practice makes perfect. So, if he is having sex with you regularly as your husband and you go for a course in London, by the time you will come back, he will have gone with somebody else.
That a boy who wants sex when you are single will want sex after you have married and you might sometimes not be available and he will have sex with somebody else. When you ask he says bit you were not available and you know I cannot control myself right from when we met?
Day 4
“‘Do not have sexual relations with your daughter-in-law. She is your son’s wife; do not have relations with her.
So, you need to understand that this subject is a subject that is very important for all of us and it is not just about perverted sexuality. It is simply about immorality. Whether it is homosexuality or it is two opposite gender Christians having sex with one another; a girl and a boy, they are equally immoral. And I told you both of them will go to hell; same hell same temperature. That needs to come out very clear to all. I thought I need to come out very clear right away.
Remember I have three things I am trying to achieve;
- Number one, I want to achieve that you cannot be a Christian and be sexually immoral. That is the message I will repeat in all through this writing.
- Number two, that immorality whether it is perverted sex or not is addictive. You are in prison and homosexuality is taking you again into another corner of prison. In other words, if you are sexual immoral, you are already wrong but you actually go to perverted sex, you are ruining your own life.
- But the third point is that we have a God who is able to rescue us from addictions of sex.
You know people think you can only be addicted to drugs. Some people are addicted to sex. And from the way am talking, you might think I imply only men are the one addicted. No!
My friend, and am now talking to brothers, be aware certain sisters are addicted to sex. And although they are in the Christian Union, if you keep their company, you will not go to marriage as a virgin my brother. Are men called virgins? I don’t know whether the word virgin is for women or men. What about men who stay without sex until the wedding day, are they called virgins? What are they called? Okay whatever they are called is good.
Day 5
“Anyone who has sexual relations with an animal is to be put to death
Now if you want to stay holy before the Lord until after the wedding, there are certain girls you have to totally avoid because they are sexually immorally addicted. And some of them will come to your room with a dress that is too low from above and too high from below. Now once you see them and yet they are sisters in the Lord take off. They love the Lord but they are coming to your room and they know that they are likely to find you alone and they can come with that kind of a dress and you look at them, you don’t know where to look..avoid them .
Now because the dress is too low from above and too high from below when she seats it becomes worse. And remember your campus room, she has to seat on a bed. Am I right? And the trouble is when she seats on a bed, the short dress becomes even shorter. And you ask yourself exactly what is this sister after! It is very simple. She is clear, she wants sex. She wants to put you into trouble. Such sisters you drop them as quickly as possible.
But you might have a brother who is a Christian but he is behaving in a manner as to put you in trouble my sisters. Such brothers have misspelled the word “brother”. In the word “brother”, they have removed the middle “r”, what do they become? A “bother”. And there are brothers who may be reading this, they have removed the middle “r” and they have become “bothers” to sisters in the CU.
Just like there are some sisters who don’t know how to spell the word “sisters”, they have removed the final letters and become sinners.
Now, the moment you know somebody is like that, you need to be careful not to keep company with them. That’s what am going to be repeating in this writing. We will be looking at the fact that any man can be sinful and he needs observation. I will later spend quite bit of time on LGBTQ and we will talk about how to respond to people who are LGBTQ.
Day 6
Genesis 3:1,
” Now the serpent was craftier than any of the wild animals the LORD God had made. He said to the woman, ‘Did God really say, ‘You must not eat from any tree in the garden’?’”
You know I want to go direct to show how sinfulness starts
To end up in sexual immorality like perverted sex, it all begins by the devil putting doubts in your mind. If I really hear anything bad, if I feel like sleeping with another man is wrong the devil whispers; what is really wrong about it? Or it is yet you are not married, what if I married him later?
The moment devil puts the doubt the trip to sin has begun. That’s what he did with Eve. In other words, he is not denying God has the right to give instructions, but is this what he meant? And nothing has changed, he puts doubts similarly in you today. Is it really wrong to have sex with my boyfriend when we love each other?
That is the question that I was asked in that university. In fact, the question was, how do I drop him just because he wants sex yet I know he loves me? In other word if the boy loves you, it is okay to go to hell. At least you will go both of you. She is not denying that it is not good that the guy wants sex before marriage but she is saying, what if he actually loves me? In other words, the love of a boyfriend is more important than the love of God. I know God loves me but this boy also loves me. If I drop him, how will I continue with life? That boy is no longer just a boy he has become a god. And he is a greater god than Jehovah! That’s why you can’t drop him.
Day 7
But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God’s holy people
For many people who end up in sex, normally devil puts a doubt in them. I know this brother is good. Maybe it is God to blame! Why does he give brothers the strong desire for sex? I can’t blame my boy friend
The moment you accept that argument the devil is back to how it takes into sin. He makes you doubt God’s command. And please note what he is asking. The devil is asking, must you not eat from any tree of the garden? Obviously, we have read that earlier. The instructions were that you could not eat from a particular tree. is it any tree? No.
Can you see how clever the devil is? He misguides so that God looks crazy. How can you give us fruit trees and you tell us not to eat all of them? God, it looks like there is something wrong with him!
And the same thing when you are going to perverted sex. You start thinking God does not mean what he says. You make it look like God is the spoiler of joy. He wants us not to enjoy sex with the people we want to have sex with. God is interfering with our freedom.
When you begin in that level, you will soon be doing things that are not right. Just look at verses 2 and 3,
“The said to the serpent, ‘We may eat fruit from the trees in the garden, but God did say, ‘You must not eat fruit from the tree that is in the middle of the garden and you must not touch it, or you will die.’ ‘ “
Now Eve herself misquoted God. Has God said we cannot touch the tree? Do you know your scriptures? Has God commanded man not to touch that tree? It was they should not eat the fruit. He never talked about touching. But now the woman has actually got into trouble of the devil, misquoting scriptures.
My friend, I am here to tell you that you can be a Christian and discover yourself in perverted sex without realising. Devil does it stealthily.
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